Sexual harassment/ violence in a workplace/ home are not normal but common. Her exposure to the world as individual personality has initiated her to earn her own identity. She likes to live her own and expects right to get respect. Her willingness for own identity has revolutionized the social structure. An educated woman open to the society is no more dependent to her husband or family. Now she is in the offices/ business/ education etc; for her prospects. She feels equal to man in all the fields and works side by side. Is her achievement and lessen for all oppressed women of our society.

Society and its men and women are responsible but men and the society are to be accused more. Women are projected as subject and property; means to humiliate society or individual, woman of that society is raped. Raping women of defeated county is reward to winning army. To pay back for non cooperation or resistance; is to rape her. This sort of mentality is developed in most communities resulting sexual harassment and violence.

Social structure is such that woman has to remain behind the curtain. For woman don’t sit there, walk there, talk there etc; lack of understanding of woman’s role in nature prevents woman from equality with men.  The more we conceal the more awful feeling moves up in the mind to commit offences. Lack in educational systems and Unequal rights from society; results humiliations. Men are considered as super most so even in working place women have to face discrimination. Men can not stand women overpowering their ego so such incidences take place.  In modern world even women’s conduct (dresses, sexy look, sexy talk, nearness approach etc ;), some times provokes men to go out of control. Psychologically women are more conscious of their look can spend many hours to look sexy, is incitement to men to advance. When the advancement is in consent of women it is ok, but if opposite, is the sexual harassment. Most important is the genetic character of the individual that leads to controlled or uncontrolled behavior. Reasons of sexual harassment and violence as I feel are:

Genetic character/ Environment:   Genes are the information plan codes of our entity comprises negative / positive - behavior, character, dominant/ submissive, taste, figure, health, life expectancy, introversion/ extroversion, anger/calm, violent/ peaceful, patience/impatience etc. The quality of genes decides the fate, behavior and shape of a person that differentiates from one individual to another. Most are acquired hereditary characters of both mother and father and some own. During travel to egg of a woman, sperms compete, block, organize and fight each other. Best and strongest of all reach egg to fertile, indicates each is different and own individuality, apart from inherited qualities. Prominent genes react to the identical environment to express own personality to the external world. Genes are above of all our body tools, even above the brain as are made by genes only. Genes are indirectly attracted to external environment through brain and modifies for future purpose. Therefore, environment and genes together play important role for sexual misbehavior. Environment provokes genes of individual to act as per the character possessed.

Jealousy: Not normal but true, in most cases jealousy causes sexual harassment or violence. In office or home many incidences occur when man hates his dream girl or girl friend / wife’s association in any form with other man. High competition/ politics for seeking favor in the working place results to jealousy. Jealousy can be in any form would lead to deteriorated relationship between man and woman becomes subject to harassment.

Marriage sex and Harassment/violence: Wife wants make-up material, house holds for house, time to listen to her gossips, sometimes sex, and lot of dresses. Husband wants sex appeal and sex. He wants her to be prepared for him all the times. His desperation and her resistance together form a sense of sexual harassment. Begins when there is misunderstanding and mistrust in the partners or when he wants her to pose for sexual act which is painful or objectionable. Painful act some times she has to bear as punishment or revenge of husband/ boyfriend for non cooperation. Ill-treatment is the result of bad relation. Ego, domination, intoxication, external marital affairs, suspicion, sexual dissatisfaction, arguments, missing respect and non cooperation are among the reasons.   For more about violence and harassment click the link below “Women and Violence”.