Marriage dreams when fails !!!
agreement between man and woman to live together - emotionally and physically, recognized by the society and gives its approval
is called “Marriage”. After recognizing the couple association, responsibility of the society is over rest are
on the shoulder of the couple to manage unending marriage.
Marriage and Dream: Marriage is portrayed as
fortune that people wait anxiously for moment to enter married life. Celebrations and custom rituals add up spice to more
tasteful marriage. Dreams to have identity as own family and children and who should I live with are the first choice.
Each one whether man or woman has a dream and anticipation for his/her future partner that he/ she should look like this and
etc. The dream what is stored in self is LOVE. The dream that comes true is the luck for one but normally dream does not come true in many cases, so has to
satisfy with what got as partner. There is a lot of difference in external look and the experiences of practical life. My
experiences contacting couples reflects both are opposite to each other in behavior, in many incidences this behavioral change
contributes to uncomfortable positions for each other. Behavioral change in a man or woman is caused by the character possessed
and the role played in the house, which creates the environment to act and react. For
example, requirement of a woman is the necessities to run the family and man’s is to arrange those needs. Both are different
objectives though for one purpose, woman will not be able to run a house without the required arranged by man. Besides this
role, man and woman have an important role of emotional and physical care for each other. Giving importance to partner’s
role and involving intensely to play his/her role in the house promotes understanding each other. Intense involvement in the family motivates to sacrifice many problems of married life. Major points as
I feel for both husband and wife to keep married life intact are:
- Dreams are far-far away from the real life, so accepting truth would benefit
in real life.
- High expectation from the partner is root to disappointments and frictions.
Treat the partner as human.
- Deep involvement of a
partner in the family affairs keeps away the attention elsewhere. Efforts to be to involve the partner emotionally and physically.
- Respect the identity
and integrity of a partner. This develops likeness, understanding, and submission emotionally.
- Emotional and physical
care of the partner is the magnet for pulling attention.
- Sexual attraction is
a tool to pull partner towards you. It is as necessary as food and water for healthy couple, enough and delicious sexual
life at home would discourage looking for alternate.
Marriage and partner’s behaviour: Each person has
own character and quality, the individuality identifies when reflected through communication and practice. Major characters
which effect married life are Negative/ Positive, Introverted/ extroverted and strong/ weak, these characters control
us. In some negative dominates and in some positive dominates, and what dominates reveals through reaction. As I observed,
there is almost no house where wife says my husband is perfect also the opinion of husband is same for his wife. So one has
to agree as no one is perfect, need an endeavour to work for the objective of marriage. Strength of marriage lies
on how you understand and react to the partner’s behaviour. If both partners understand each other, react in accordance would
avoid clashes and violence. In each house there is opinion differences; to manage is the quality of both partners:
- To extinguish fire, water
or other cool substance is the solution. To be cool when find possibility of arguments and settle the mater in right environment.
Arguments become clash and then differences in the partnership only accelerates distasteful married life, is one of the reasons
- Many couples do not like
each other’s odour rather can not stand, in such cases during sleep any important discussion may result to arguments.
Because is already irritated by the distaste of odour to give positive response.
- Many small-pity incidences
like he/she does not dress well, very slow, does not clean well, does not smile, talk too much or too serious and etc, etc,
together form a big consolidated issue, when minded and stored in self stimulates
dislike towards partner.
- In many houses, beginning of arguments cursing each other for not doing this or done that, is normally stimulated
by development of dislike of prior incidences. In such families dominant person’s ego of being efficient and intelligent
pursues partner to act accordingly. Such characters are too extroverted and negative which prevents them calculating others
mind. They have a feeling what they think is right. No one is same and each one has intelligence but in different forms, one
is good at kitchen and other in arranging. Avoiding comparison softens relation.
- Women are more emotional
than men. Women use heart to think and Men use brain. So women need emotional touch up, attention and presence recognized.
A gift to beloved is the attraction - for emotional touch. A gift represents your compassion
and connection. A gift is an honor to respect a person. Gifts signify presentation of your devotion for relationship. A gift
that relates to liking indicates your intensity of involvement to know his/ her taste. A gift has emotional value for attachment.