We find two types of education the child gets. First, is training the survival instinct, given mainly by mother, father and family or friends. Right from learning to walk, eat, and speak, to lead the family life, the child gets training  mainly from mother then others associated with children. Second, one is training the social conduct given by the schools, teachers. These two trainings the child requires to survive and maintain social identity. For this, parents motivate child to work hard in studies for future life. Parents concern about child’s future forces them to put heavy pressure on child during studies.

Child lives in an environment that has high expectations so has to arrive to the expectation.  During middle and secondary education child mainly studies to satiate parents, friends, society, teachers, schools, and neighborhood. Especially, mother and father are more concerned about the child’ future and put high-pressure so they could see child’s successful future.  Successful child gets honor and attention that the child or any individual would love. Child incurs efforts to meet their expectations and works hard to achieve. Level of hard work depends on the edibility to grasp. Day and night sits to copy from books to pasting into brain or notebooks.  For most, studies mean a tuff task more than to wrestle in WWF wrestling and too uninteresting. When any subject becomes boring signifies the subject is either too difficult to grasp or teaching method is such that child fails to understand the basics.  However, for each student the study means is load on the head. Study system introduced as tuff job. Systems of educating children have many weaknesses that scare children.

The education does not seem to be funny, pleasant and interesting so could attract children to involve.  Once I watched in “National Geographic channel,” in North American forest, puma in her mouth brought live rabbit to its kids, I thought was to feed them but not true. The truth was live rabbit was brought to kitten to educate the hunting method. The kitten played with live rabbit until killing. Then I realized the system of education of animals is better than human.  Play and learn system brings the perfection to education.  The system we follow is to stress children and make sick.  The primary, secondary, graduation education fails to give future, as to seek jobs need to study professional courses. The Graduation signifies the status, that’s is all !!

• Failing signifies shame, and mistreatment from parents, society, friends, school, and teacher. In order to avoid this child incurs the greatest effort to succeed for at least to say has passed the examination.
• Educational systems have developed fear among the schoolchildren. I feel children are not responsible rather the educational systems and schools who believe, copy to brain and paste in the answering sheet is best method of education. Then comes the parents but blaming them is not right as their worry for the child makes involve.
• Over half of students develop depression due the study scare, some percentage due to harassment in schools.
• Developing countries have developed educational systems that develop depression to commit suicide. Suicide season begin during examinations and the declaration of result. Education system has created panic and terror among students.

Exams create tensed situation to the students. Their panic situations begin much before the beginning of the exams.  The uncontrollable stress situation produces stomachache, nausea, vomiting, blocking sensation, anger, depression, mind blankness, chest pain, palpitation, butterflies in the stomach (a situation of fear of result), hands going limp and sometimes inability to write exams due to fear and confusions, etc.  These are the following symptoms we observe during or just before the exams.

Children need to understand that the panic and the stress situation only kill them, they have to live to fight to grow in future, and these exams are not the real exams of life. In life they have to face many such and larger situations. Failure in these exams may affect little at present but incites them to do better, is a kind of incentive to perform better.

• So do not fear the failures but develop to do better. In natural life, the failure is common. Failing studies does not mean failing the practical life.
• Be cool to develop mind for better performance.
• Stress, one way is important and part of the evolutionary systems to build human life for future tolerance and understanding. Stress develops the brain and the resistance power. Excessive of everything is bad!! excessive strain to brain may lead to madness. Consider situation lightly to avoid panic.
• If mother or father is worried that does not mean they are enemies rather consider them as the best friends. They are the will wishers.
• Learning subjects by learning basics of the subject, so emphasis on learning on basics to make study interesting.
• Many introverted character students develop the habit to hide what they do not know; it is because they fear the outcome. So hide and pose as if they know everything to maintain false status. Come forward and ask what not understood. Free mind develops memory so do not hesitate to ask teachers, parents or others who knows. If not, go to internet free educational advice sites for any topic problems.
• Consider study as game, so becomes interesting, would ease to understand subject.
•  Discuss problems to the best friends such as mother, father, and other parents who will involve or arrange.
• Do not keep pain in the heart to affect brain disclose to mom or pop immediately to ease up. 
• Study needs freshness and cool mind; do not load your mind to confuse. When one is free of mind would be easy to understand.   We all have faced or facing the situation because we tense our mind before preparation of the exams.
• Sleep well to increase grasping power. Listen music or relax when felt tired.
• Eat right food to avoid and fever attack.
• Mom and Pop should ease their behavior on children to cool them during preparation of exams.

The rate of increase of depression among children is an astounding 23% p.a (by uplift program)